Monday, 19 July 2010

What can we learn from Islamic dating websites?

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In our current issue, we have a piece by Theodore Dalrymple in which he considers what we can learn about the lives of young Muslims in Western countries by looking at what may initially seem like an unusual source – the ads posted on Islamic marriage sites.

Have a read, and share any thoughts you may have by commenting on this post.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

My main thought is that Theodore Dalrymple is incapable of writing anything without sounding like a humourless, prescriptivist, xenophobic, smug arsehole.

Anonymous said...

My main thought is that Theodore Dalrymple is incapable of writing anything without sounding like a humourless, prescriptivist, xenophobic, smug arsehole.

You seem to be lacking a bit in humour yourself, son.

Anonymous said...

In what way?

PS, I am a LAYDEE.

Allan Him said...

"Westernisation is in fact far advanced among Muslims in Europe, as elsewhere. This is evident from Islamic marriage websites, for example."

Is it really evident from the Islamic dating websites? Can we learn anything much about Muslims in general from such sites?
I suspect that the users of such sites are (almost by definition) more Westernised than most Muslims living in the West. To take profiles of Muslims on those sites as though they were typical of the population as a whole is to engage in biased sampling.

mezzaterra said...

Muslims are not one homogenous entity sharing the same traditions & cultural norms.

''What is striking about the websites of British Muslims, in fact, is that all the men look profoundly American, usually in T-shirts and often in baseball caps.''

So Muslims are meant to dress how? The world dresses in a generic fashion, & cultural dress has nothing to do with religious attire.
The only religious attire is modesty in dressing, regardless if that's jeans or a shalwar kameez.

Using marriage website profiles to reveal Muslims as secular is laughable.

As a South African young Muslim woman, my identity is a seamless blend of western, African & Islamic identities.
I have more in common with my South African non-Muslim friends than I do with Muslim friends in Egypt, where I currently live.
Likewise, being 4th generation South African of Indian origin, I find I connect more with Europeans than Indians/Pakistanis.

I'm a practising Muslim whose religion does not stop me from integrating in a 'modern' world.

Anonymous said...

l am a muslim,it does not matter what anti-islamic people say or think .as for theodore ,he seems to be a man who is accepting the stupidity of westernisation and the lifestyle of those who follow it blindly.ARE SOME MUSLIMS westernised?partly yes,we take the good of it and discard the evil of it.are all of use 100% in discarding it?no,man has weaknesses that lead them to follow there desires knowing that it is sinful.does that justify our actions ?no,but we pray for guidance.are all so called 'westernised"people religious and virtuous?are they moral and upright ?lets leave judging to the most high,the perfect one,l bet even our judge "theodore" has his own ......
I BELIEVE IN PEACE WITHOUT DISCRIMINATION , CORRUPTION AND MOST IMPORTANTLY,WITHOUT STUPID MEN WHO WRITE ARTICLES TO DISINTEGRATE MANKIND.